The idea of same-sex marriage has been one of hot debate historically…often being met with strong opposition in the United States. In light of that, and as with most stories there are usually two sides.
Prior to the US Supreme Court rendering their ruling resulting in the legalization of same-sex marriage in the US, there were many pro and con arguments related to whether or not same-sex marriage should be legalized. Although the list for each side is exhaustive, here are some gay marriage pros and cons that were at the forefront of the question.
Gay Marriage: Con Arguments (those against same-sex marriage)
- Same-sex marriage undermines the institution of marriage that has traditionally been defined as being between a man and a woman.
- Marriage is for procreation (having children) and shouldn’t be extended to same-sex couples since they are not able to produce children together.
- There are consequences for children of same-sex marriages as children need to have a male father and female mother.
- Same-sex marriages increase the chances of leading to other unaccepted marriages and non-traditional marriages such as incest, polygamy, and bestiality.
- Same-sex marriage is consistent with homosexuality, which is immoral and unnatural.
- Same-sex marriage violated the word of God, thus is incompatible with the beliefs of many religions.
- Same-sex marriages will result in people having their tax dollars used to support something that they don’t believe in or believe is wrong.
- Legalizing same-sex marriage promotes and advances the homosexual agenda, with children being targeted.
- Civil unions and domestic partnerships afford many of the rights of marriage, thus marriage should not be expanded to include same-sex couples.
- Same-sex marriage will speed up the assimilation of gay individuals into the mainstream heterosexual culture which will be detrimental to the homosexual community.
Gay Marriage: Pro Arguments (those in favor of same-sex marriage)
- Couples are couples, whether same-sex or not. Thus, same-sex couples should be afforded the same access to the same benefits enjoyed by heterosexual married couples.
- Singling out and denying a group to marry based upon their sexual orientation is discrimination and subsequently, creates a second class of citizens.
- Marriage is an internationally recognized human right for all people.
- Prohibiting same-sex marriage violated the 5th and 14th Amendments of the US Constitution.
- Marriage is a basic civil right and same-sex marriage is a civil right, right along with freedom from employment discrimination, equal pay for women, and fair sentencing for minority criminals.
- If marriage is only for procreation, heterosexual couples unable or unwilling to have children should also be prevented from marrying.
- Being a same-sex couple doesn’t make them any less qualified or able to be a good parent.
- There are religious leaders and churches that do support same-sex marriage. Furthermore, may state that it is consistent with scripture.
- Same-sex marriage legalization is correlated with lower divorce rate, whereas same-sex marriage bans are correlated with higher divorce rates.
- Making same-sex marriage will not harm the institution of marriage. In fact, they may be more stable than heterosexual marriages.
Read More: A Historical Introduction to Same Sex Marriage
Ultimately, whether an argument of religion, values, politics, or general beliefs, the result in 2015 clarified that same-sex couples were afforded the same rights to marriage as heterosexual couples.
For this assignment I am supposed to debate the issue of same sex marriages. I assume my paper should pick one side of the issue and debate it from that opinion. However on the issue of gay marriages, I don’t have an opinion. I consider myself an open-minded individual who doesn’t like to be judged, thus, I don’t judge anyone else. Having been involved in a bi-racial marriage,
believe me when I say that I have walked a mile in the shoes. I know from my own personal experiences that living in North Carolina my entire life that people are very opinionated and judgmental. Anything out of the “normal” is unacceptable.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;">But my problem is who says what is “normal”. I have an older daughter who lives in California and what seems to be not normal here is North Carolina is an everyday part of life there in California. What does this have to do with the debate of gay marriage, well a lot. It really depends on where you live as to how your life situation will be looked at or accepted. I was married most of my life to a man of Mexican decent and even within the Mexican culture the overall feeling of people is “live and let live”. Having had 4 daughters who are mixed we learned and lived to survive a lot. Even my daughters have seen this type of judging. People just don’t accept anything that they believe is not “normal”.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;">I will begin the same sex marriage topic by saying that I can not take a particular side. I will point out a lot of the pros and cons of being in a homosexual relationship. I personally take the stand of “live and let live”. I believe that there will be a judgement day and that there is a being that is bigger than any of us. A being that will judge us individually for what we have done and how we have chosen to live our lives. It is all a matter of personal choice.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;">First I will begin by saying that marriage is a bond between two people and a promise. Marriage is a commitment of trust and loyalty. Whether we choose to marry outside of our race or with the same sex, shouldn’t this choice be ours to make? As long as the commitment is there and we feel love for the other person and are prepared to be loyal, then who is to take that away from us? Shouldn’t we have the choice to marry whom we want to? There are those who say we shouldn’t. There are those who say that only men and women should marry each other. The biggest argument seems to be that it is a sin and that sex with the same person is perverted, wrong, and just immoral. When God made Adam, he made Eve with the expectations that they would reproduce. Some people say that that God made Eve for Adam, not Adam for Adam and that homosexuality is a sin.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;">The bible is often referred to and verses taken from it to “prove” this point. The rebuttal to this statement is if homosexuality is a sin, then why did God make us this way since homosexuality is supposedly a born trait, something that you are born with. Another argument is that homosexual marriages threaten the very institute of marriage and that these types of relationships ruin the lives of our children. I will take this argument one section at a time. An argument that it threatens traditional marriage is that homosexual marriage is an empty pretense that lacks the fundamental sexual complementariness of male and female. Comparing these types of marriages to a counterfeit bill and like all counterfeits, it cheapens and degrades the real thing. The destructive effects may not be immediately apparent, but the cumulative damage is inescapable. As far as our children the argument is that children from homosexual relationships seem to do more poorly in school and in their social lives as compared to children from heterosexual relationships. Apparently there are some studies that show children from heterosexual relationships come up more productive in school and that they don’t have the same problems in their social lives as children from homosexual relationships.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;">There are also arguments about the physical differences of the pair and arguments that sodomy is actually illegal. Another point is that it is very offensive to see two people of the same sex together.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;">Whether same sex marriages are right or wrong should not really be up to any of us. People in my opinion would be much better off living their own lives and not worrying about everybody else. We should all leave the judging up to God.</p>